Changing the self-talk is hard work, but so worth it. It's helped me immensely over the years to ask myself, "What would you think if this was being said to someone else you respect? Then why is it okay to say it to yourself?" Or, to just say, 'No, so-and-so says this about me," when I can't believe in myself. Right now I have posters on my bedroom wall that say "Arise," "Create," "Try," and "Protect."